Sally Amato
Book of Condolences and Reminiscences

Sally Amato was a dear friend to us all, but we each knew her in a different way.


This Book of Condolences and Reminiscences was kept during the months after her death on August 16, 2000. These are treasured, sacred memories to us all.

 
I speak for myself, and my ten brothers and sisters, Mary, Cecilia, Lucia, Thomas, Michael, Veronica, Barbara, Francesca, John Paul, and Robert Sparacio when I express our thanks and love to you, Sally and Tony, for giving us the honor of being your "original" children's chorus in the Amato Opera productions on the road, at the theatre, and in Town Hall. Our mother, Franca, our father, Dr. Robert, and our Zio, Uberto Battente, gratefully sing you this chorus: "When past bearing is our grief, God the Lord will send relief." We will always love you, Tony, and shall always cherish the memory of Sally whom we hold in our hearts. No matter how old we grow, we will always be your gingerbread children. Hugs and kisses, Theresa and the Sparacios
Theresa M. Sparacio <lynbrook@hotmail.com>
Brooklyn, NY USA - Monday, April 30, 2001 at 22:30:33 (EDT)
Dearest All, Sally really believed in me and my abiilities. As a result of her trust and love, I worked sewing costumes, the box office (scary feat!), video, singing and playing Jeopardy! I am now studying with Dolores Mari and can still hear Sally's voice when I sing Puccini. Love, Paulina
Paulina Brahm <hellopaulina@msn.com>
NY, NY USA - Monday, April 30, 2001 at 15:54:09 (EDT)
I started at Amato at the tender age of 19 and spent the next few years learning from the best. My memories of Sally as teacher, coach and jack-of-all-trades will be ones that i will cherish all of my life. Although I have not been back for many years, I often think of those days and envy all of those who have passed through the magical doors of 319. I know that Sally is looking down on us and I can bet she's leading the angel's chorus. My deepest condolences to Tony and family.
Donna Brown-Rasdall <tonysbb@yahoo.com>
Newark, DE19702 USA - Thursday, April 19, 2001 at 23:27:30 (EDT)
I sang with the Amato at the tender age of 20, at which time I made my operatic debut as Barbarina in "The Marriage of Figaro." I remember Sally very kindly with her sunny face and sweet spirit, as she calmed the nerves of a fledgling soubrette while she helped me with my costue. She was a blessing.
Vernay Dabney <vernaydabney@wachoviasecurities.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Wednesday, March 28, 2001 at 16:02:30 (EST)
I was very sad to hear of Sally's death. I remember her as a warm and hardworking woman. I especially remember the wonderful meals she would make whenever we would strike a set and get ready for a new production. Sally was everywhere in the house. Making costumes, cooking, teaching and of course singing. I know the entire the entire company must miss her. My condolences to Maestro Tony.
John Varricchio <musicjav@yahoo.com>
Roslyn , NY USA - Saturday, March 17, 2001 at 20:40:46 (EST)
BRAVA!!! Now the encore ---- with the heavenly host of angels as chorus, for the command performance before God himself........ the final judgement?..... !!BRAVA!!BRAVA SALLY!!
Entera <entera79@aol.com>
Santa Barbara, CA USA - Sunday, March 11, 2001 at 23:54:49 (EST)
Dear Tony, I just learned of Sally's passing in a writeup of the film "The Amato Opera," which will receive its world premiere at the Santa Barbara Film Festival on March 3, 2001. Tony, you may remember me as a performer of buffo roles with your company back in the '50s, when you had the previous theatre in the Village, which later became Circle in the Square. (Wasn't it on Bleeker Street?) I used to break you up as Alcindoro with some infamous upstaging of Musetta during her Act II solo, and I married one of your pianists, Celeste Horne. I have beautiful memories of dear Sally, ever cheerful, loving, and kind. Do you remember when she and I entertained at cast parties by singing "I Once Was a Very Abandoned Person," from Gilbert & Sullivan's "Ruddigore"? I've thought of the two of you often over the years and am so glad your company is still flourishing. And so sorry that Sally has passed on. But she will always remain with all of us who have had the privilege and pleasure of knowing her. All my love to you. Keith
Keith Connes <kconnes@home.com>
Santa Barbara, CA USA - Thursday, March 01, 2001 at 23:26:37 (EST)
We dearly miss our sister-in-law, Sally, we have such happy memories of our many years together. She was indeed unique, and will be in our thoughts forever. Love always, Albert and Zallee
Albert and Zallee Amato
Waterford, CT USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2001 at 19:44:11 (EST)
It has taken me a long time to get these thoughts down in writing. I joined the chorus of the Amato when I was still in high school in 1972. Tony and Sally both welcomed me as a member of the family immediately and from that moment on they created what can only be described as magic in my life. Magic that has lasted almost 30 years. I knew I had really made it though when given at age 17, my first "role," that of the messenger in La Traviata. Although I spoke Italian I somehow managed to walk out on the stage, panicked and remembered the first couple of words and then went blank. Sally, who was sitting on the stairs next to Tony's podium, just laughed, as well as did the tenor on stage. Tony who was conducting christened me at that very moment "Michael Goddammit." Little did I know that this name would stick with me for several decades. (There were even people who said to me they thought that this was my actual last name!) Little did I also know that I had now joined the august Goddammit family whose matriarch was indeed the beloved Sally Goddammit. Having the honor of doing Alcindoro in La Boheme opposite Sally as Musetta and Tony himself as the waiter was a memorable situation since neither Sally nor Tony were what one might call reticent on the stage. Tony can steal the show easily no matter he does on stage and thus it was with the waiter. As he outrageously flirted with Musetta while taking her order with his back virtually doing a body block to me as I waited impatiently for my turn, when he did turn to take my order I ordered something unprintable ("____ on toast" I said, seeing his face react brilliantly I then grabbed him by the tie to add, " and a Sasparilla." Tony then said, "I'll get you, Michael Goddammit" and hurried off. Sally leaned over laughing just as the intro chords to her aria began and quickly and deftly said, "Great job, Michael Goddammit." Sally was there in a pinch no matter what the situation. When I did a small part in Don Pasquale and promptly split my pants in my first scene, there was Sally who backstage with no fanfare most carefully and strategically placed a safety pin in a matter of seconds beneath a delicate area (shall we say) thereby saving the day. Years later when I had graduated to Don Jose in Carmen, our Micaela had gotten lost between acts (it turned out she had decided to kill the long amount of time she had on her hands between acts by climbing into a car in the parking lot behind the theater to make out with her boyfriend). As I waited in the wings on one side listening the pianist playing and replaying and vamping Micaela's entrance) suddenly there appeared Sally on the other side who had quickly jumped into the wig and costume of Micaela in literally a matter of seconds. She was always the trooper. I could easily write a book about all the wonderful scenes but onstage and off that I was so very priviledged to take part in. And almost none of them would have played out without Sally playing a part. Thank you Sally and Tony for being mother and father, mentors, guides, friends and of course, family. I will love you both forever. Most affectionately, Michael Goddammit
Michael Meskers <mmeskers@interport.net>
Brooklyn, NY USA - Thursday, February 08, 2001 at 15:43:57 (EST)
The beauty and enthralling experience of the Amato opera theatre shall live within me forever. What Tony and his wonderful late wife Sally have given so many, can never be measured on any financial scale. In a world of pentium chips and microprocessors, it is so very important not to lose the true beauty and harmony of the natural earth. As I sit here writing my thoughts, listening to the intermezzo from Cavalleria Rusticana from their homepage, I am transcended from the plastic keyboard of my computer, to a beautiful place of the soul that is in harmony with the life-force of nature. So many have lost their way in the dot com world and invested their energy and spirit in technological wonders, that they have forgotten the true majesty of the human soul. Technology is a wonderful tool to enhance life, but one should not totally live within the electric screen of the colored monitor, but should walk quietly in the forests or listen to the symphony of the sounding sea. The ãhomeä that is The Amato Opera Theatre is a cradle of love and nourishment that feeds the young souls that have not tasted the sweet nectar of truly beautiful classical music. For this, so many will always be grateful to the mother and father of this musical monastery. Tony, may the music in your soul continue to bless the world and glorify the memory of your wonderful wife Sally. Thank You Mike Jacobs
Mike Jacobs <WrdsOWsdm@aol.com>
Wantagh, NY USA - Tuesday, January 02, 2001 at 17:31:05 (EST)
It is so sad to hear of the passing of Sally. She and Tony have been a unique and special part of New York since before I can remember. A few years ago my husband and I saw our first Amato production. We were so taken with the open, friendly "come on up" from Sally when we came to pick up tickets before the performance. We were amazed at all the roles Sally filled during the production itself. I know that there is now a void in many lives, but I also know that Sally will continue to look after the Amato Opera Company from the "best seat in the house," which she now occupies.
Adrianne Petillo <apetillo246@yahoo.com>
Warren, NJ USA - Friday, December 29, 2000 at 11:17:16 (EST)
One blossom falls from the Apple Tree.
Peter & Trisha Girling <PmGirling@aol.com>
USA - Monday, December 04, 2000 at 20:32:53 (EST)
I remember the happy times. I lived on Bleecker St and would often go to the old Luxor Theatere which was where I deposited my yellow envelope contribution as I sat and watched the Operas. Sally was always friendly and we had some nice conversations. That is where my love for opera was nourished. She will always be associated in my mind with beautiful music.
caesar brunelli <ctsm@coastalnet.com>
littleton, nc nc USA - Thursday, November 30, 2000 at 05:24:40 (EST)
Seldom do people step into our lives and leave their footprints on our soul. Sally has done just that, not only for me but for countless others who were fortunate enough to have known her. To meet her was to love her and I am so grateful to have known someone so special. She will always be in my heart and I will never forget her smile. I am so sorry. My sincerest condolences and love to Tony. Nancy Hornecker
Nancy Hornecker <sasha@webpc.dellnet.com>
Brooklyn, NY USA - Wednesday, November 15, 2000 at 19:09:42 (EST)
I spoke to Sally two years ago when I was arranging a family celebration of opera and dinner for my aunt, sister, and her family. Sally talked to me as if she knew me for twenty years. Her warmth and kindness will always be remembered. She will be kept in our prayers.
Ellen Breazeale <Ebreazea@ffic.com>
Novato, CA USA - Monday, November 13, 2000 at 14:52:45 (EST)
Dear Tony, I was very saddened to hear of Sally's passing. Although my contact with Sally was brief, she impressed me as a true lover of opera and life...a fine lady. I will never forget the day that I came to sing for you. I went up stairs to the office area to warm up before my audition. Sally was up working in the office, and my rather loud warm up didn't seem to bother her in the least. When my turn came to sing, out of the corner of my eye, I noticed that Sally had come down to hear my audition. I can't tell you why, but seeing her there, even after hearing my (not so wonderful) warmup, calmed my nerves and I was able sing through most of my nerves and get through the audition. Afterwards, Sally stopped me to talk about my audition...it meant the world to me. Sally thanked me for coming to sing and was a very kind and calming influence on me at a time when I really needed it. She didn't know me at all, but took the time to say hello, and to say a few kind words. She was a true lady and a class act. Sally and you are in my prayers. Sincerely, Rex
Rex Whicker <canbelto@hotmail.com>
Bellerose Village, NY USA - Friday, November 03, 2000 at 13:28:49 (EST)
I was deeply saddened to read in Opera News of the loss of Sally Amato. I cannot say that I knew her well since I do not get to New York and the Amato Opera very often. But on any of my visits there she was a vibrant enthusiastic promoter of opera, whether selling tickets or a T-shirt for my grandkids. She will be missed. Jerry Braunstein
Jerry Braunstein <jcsb@icx.net>
Clinton, TN USA - Monday, October 23, 2000 at 00:31:34 (EDT)
very sorry to hear the bad news.I have vivid memories of her kindness, patience and helpfulness
joe boardman
charlottesville, va USA - Wednesday, October 04, 2000 at 13:13:10 (EDT)
I remember Sally...that smile...performing last-minute miracles with costumes and wigs that were not quite right...a gutsy laugh for a good joke...an inspired and inspiring singing-actress...twinkling eyes...an astute judge of character who always had a kind word but who judiciously delivered compliments...a strong woman who perfectly balanced her very talented husband...a person who lived her life fully and passionately...Brava Sally!
Kathy Enders & Robert Escavich <bobkat@eclipse.net>
New York, NY USA - Sunday, October 01, 2000 at 20:34:17 (EDT)
Stopping by to buy tickets, attending Amato Opera Circle musicales, sitting in at open rehearsals, and of course enjoying all the performances...it didn't take me long to learn what a great team Sally and Tony were. We're all going to miss her terribly, but we'll always have with us all the wonderful gifts she gave us. Thank you Sally! Love from a faithful fan...
Katy Morgan <katymorgan@juno.com>
New York, NY USA - Saturday, September 30, 2000 at 06:32:48 (EDT)
Dear Tony, Somehow without my even being aware of it, you and Sally have become family to me. There is so much history there -- my very first show for you was a ãManonä with Sally in the title role. We never stopped learning from her -- she was lovely onstage and off. I will never forget her encouraging words before and during a show, the care she took with our costumes (including her valiant efforts to make me look like a boy), her smiling up at us during rehearsal ö these are my precious memories of Sally. With love, Trudy Wodinsky
Trudy Wodinsky <twodinsky@mayerbrown.com>
New York, NY USA - Friday, September 29, 2000 at 15:43:39 (EDT)
I was so sorry to hear of the death of Sally. She was always most supportive of me in my years with the Amato Opera in the mid 1960's and she will be sorely missed by all who knew her.
Beryl Bass nee Campbell <buttercup@dccnet.com>
Sechelt, BC Canada - Sunday, September 24, 2000 at 22:44:59 (EDT)
Dear Tony, We have just learned of Sally's passing and we're both devastated by that sad news. She was so tireless in wearing so many hats at the theatre and had taught us so very much. Working with you and Sally has been the richest and most informed time of our careers, and Sally will always occupy a special room in our minds and hearts. We know that she is still overseeing every department at the theatre and her spirit hovers over every performance. God Bless. much love, Jeannette and Jim
Jeannette Stellato and Jim Landers <DukeMalde@aol.com>
Fairfield, CT USA - Sunday, September 24, 2000 at 12:30:15 (EDT)
Dear Tony and Family of Sally, I have just returned from Italy and heard of Sally's passing. It is terribly difficult to think of New York's smallest opera company getting along day by day without her. Her spirit was so enormous and her energy unrelentless. I was always full of admiration for her generousity, directness, and talent--both onstage beautifully demonstrated at your 50th anniversary party, and back stage. Never have I seen anyone else tranform a single costume to fit seven different body types. She was a miracle worker in every sense of the word. Many will miss her and I hope you can take comfort in the fact that many also loved her.
Lynne Hayden-Findlay <dntndiva@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Tuesday, September 19, 2000 at 13:35:13 (EDT)
Dear Tony, I was very saddened to hear of the passing of Sally. You probably don't remember me. You knew me as Harriet Victor, many years ago. I remember Sally, with great fondness. I hope, that with time, you will be comforted. I know that many, many people loved her. Sincerely, Harriet J. Brown
Harriet J. Brown <brownh@asme.org>
Bayside, NY USA - Monday, September 18, 2000 at 08:45:21 (EDT)
Dear Maestro Amato I am very saddened to hear of the tragic loss of your beloved wife Sally. I remember her fondly as the leading lady when I was a member of the childrens' chorus back when the house was on Bleeker Street. We deeply enjoyed listening to her beautiful voice and she was a source of cheer and encouragement for all of us. I saw my very first opera at the Amato as a child. Sally will always be the LEADING LADY.
Stephen Victor <victoresq@msn.com>
Blue Bell, PA USA - Sunday, September 17, 2000 at 20:43:48 (EDT)
Dear Tony: My most sincere condolences for your terrible loss. I'll always remember Sally as a kind, happy and glowing presence to everyone around her.
Daniel Fichera <dfich22@hotmail.com>
Weehawken, NJ USA - Thursday, September 14, 2000 at 21:05:14 (EDT)
Just a short note to send my sincerest condolences to your wife, Sally. We came many times in the past 15 years to many operas and spoke to your wife briefly. She was a sweet lady and I know she will be missed.
jeanette Casciana <jcasciana@salans.com>
Brooklyn, NY USA - Monday, September 11, 2000 at 15:59:28 (EDT)
Dear Maestro Amato, I was profoundly saddened by the news of your and the whole Amato family's loss with Mrs. Amato's passing on August 16, which I only just found out about today [September 9]. There is, of course, consolation in our faith, knowing that Mrs. Amato has now been born into eternity, and that we have yet another advocate directly before God interceding on our behalf. The loss hurts so much, though, so you and your beautiful family are especialy in my prayers, that our God of all consolation will be felt very present to you. In her work with you at the Amato Opera Company she truly made something beautiful for God, of which all of us are beneficiaries, and now God makes something beautiful for her and, through her, for us all. Sincerely, Vincent McNally, CFC
Br. Vincent McNally <mcnallyv@cbinstitute.org>
New Rochelle, NY USA - Friday, September 08, 2000 at 18:59:46 (EDT)
I AM EXTREMELY HEARTBROKEN BY THE NEWS OF SALLY'S PASSING, I HAD THE WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITY LIKE MOST TO SING AT THE AMATO OPERA IN THE EARLY 90'S AND WHATEVER ROLE I WAS SINGING, I ALWAYS KNEW THAT SALLY WOULD MAKE ME LOOK PRETTY IN MY COSTUMES,FONDEST MEMORIES OF ALL WAS MY SUSANNA IN THE MARRIAGE OF FIGARO AND WELL JUST ABOUT EVERY ROLE I SANG THERE. I KNOW THAT HEAVEN RIGHT NOW HAS ANOTHER ANGEL SMILING DOWN AT US. MAESTRO, MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY, THANK YOU FOR ALL THE PERFORMANCES, FOR TEACHING ME THE ART OF A TRUE OPERA SINGER AND TO HAVE KNOWN AND TO HAVE WORKED WITH BOTH YOU AND SALLY,THESE HEARTFELT MEMORIES I WILL TREASURE FOREVER.I WILL ALWAYS CARRY HER IN MY HEART EVERYTIME I STEP ON THE STAGE. MY LOVE ALWAYS. P.S SALLY'S MEATBALLS MADE ME CHEAT ON MY VEGETARIAN DIET, THEY WERE THE BEST EVER. NICOLE
NICOLE CROOKS <NICOLE_CROOKS@EXCITE.COM>
816 OCEAN AVE BKLYN, NY USA - Friday, September 08, 2000 at 15:05:28 (EDT)
I always know how special my evening will be when I take my seat in the opera house. Thank you Sally for all the music, and my best wishes go out to you Maestro Tony.
Melissa Hamilton <littlebeemusic@metconnect.com>
New York, NY USA - Friday, September 08, 2000 at 10:43:21 (EDT)
I am sad that Sally is no longer with us. My condolence to Tony and the rest of the Amato opera. She will be sorely missed by everyone who knew her.
David H. Yin <Davidhyin@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Tuesday, September 05, 2000 at 13:56:49 (EDT)
Many years ago I had the pleasure of singing with Sally. I was just starting out at the Amato Opera and there were a few special performances where we paired.Sally was my Susanna when I sang the Countess. We were singing the "letter duet" and when we were finished singing Tony who had been looking at Sally with such love blew her a kiss. I have never forgotten that. Watching Sally perform as Suzanna taught me a lot. I have sung many places thoughout the world and I have still not found a place that had the same artistic values as the Bowery. If it hadn't been for Sally in those early years I would not have continued. Tony we all know that pain that you must be feeling in this terrible moment and our prayers and wishes go out to you.
Mila deCosta <Pilzerin@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Sunday, September 03, 2000 at 12:05:36 (EDT)
Dearest Tony, The loss you and the rest of us have suffered can not be put into words. All we can say is Thank You for the influence that both of you have had on my wife and our mother Helen. Helen always speaks of you and Sally as the two greatest influences in her life. The two of you helped make her the wonderful person that she is. Sally will always be with us throughout our lives. Love, Jimmy, Bridget & Fiona
Jimmy, Bridget & Fiona Golden <golden58@gateway.net>
forest hills, NY USA - Saturday, September 02, 2000 at 16:46:56 (EDT)
SALLY WAS WHAT NEW YORK CITY WAS ALL ABOUT, AND WE WILL BE LESS BECAUSE OF HER HER LOSS....
JOHNNY <DELECKIE>
NEW YORK , NY USA - Saturday, September 02, 2000 at 10:04:53 (EDT)
After reading David and Mark's recollections of their days at the theater, I realize how important Sally was in their development, musically and otherwise. For that I am heartily grateful! During those early years, at Sally's request, I would work with her at the box office, assist her in the preparation of the costumes and occasionally serve as an usher. Sally was definitely fearless: for instance, she was the only one who would handle the electric knife to cut the sandwiches which we Circle members were preparing for our meetings. Her sense of humor was matchless: with that twinkle in her eyes and her mischievous smile, her succinct "asides" were the greatest. That is most probably one of the things I'll miss most at the theater.
Erika Freiman <efmom@webtv.net>
Jackson Heights, NY USA - Friday, September 01, 2000 at 14:47:04 (EDT)
We are very big fans of the Amato Opera House and every time we are coming to NYC we are keen on seeing the latest perfomance of this paradise-world! Therefore we are sooooo sad about the passing away of Sally - she always arranged tickets for "her German friends from Berlin" even if the tickets were sold out! She - next to Tony - was the fine, humourous, wonderful motor of the most special opera house in the world!
Fee Holz-Kemmler <feekemmler@snafu.de>
Berlin, Germany - Thursday, August 31, 2000 at 06:33:23 (EDT)
It has been three years since I left New York, and seven years since I left the full-time opera world, but I will never forget the four Amato productions in which I had the good fortune to share in Tony and Sally's world. Amato Opera is a world unto itself that ran like clockwork, with no room for prima donnas. With Sally's passing, a New York story has closed its book; an urban era has ended. Rest in peace, Sally, and don't let the angels in heaven upstage you. L'shalom, Jacquie Shuchat-Marx Albuquerque, NM
Jacqueline Shuchat-Marx <CantorJacquie@earthlink.net>
Albuquerque, NM USA - Thursday, August 31, 2000 at 00:43:11 (EDT)
Unfortunately, I only had one opportunity, back in the '70's, to sing with the Amato Opera Theatre, but it is a warm memory for me. Sally contributed a great deal of that warmth. She was supportive and encouraging. She was also quite an artist! I will never forget her performance of the role of Antonia in "The Tales of Hoffmann." It was a wonderfully moving, detailed, definitive portrayal. Thank you, Sally, for sharing your music and your life with us. Kathy Minicozzi
Kathy Minicozzi
Brooklyn, NY USA - Wednesday, August 30, 2000 at 16:35:02 (EDT)
I can only thank God for having had the privilege of knowing and singing with Sally Amato. We rarely find such warm and loving people in our lives and having known her was a great joy for me (even if I didn't agree with her that all Spaniards have long sideburns). She certainly will live in my memory as long as I live. Thanks, Sally.
George Maldonado <georgemaldonado3@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 28, 2000 at 16:28:21 (EDT)
Dear Maestro, I am saddened to hear of your great loss. Sally was so warm, welcoming, and vivacious - and her meatballs were the best! May you, Richard Cerullo, and all the Amato family and friends find comfort in treasured memories. Risa Mandell
risa mandell <enter@worldnet.att.net>
ny, ny USA - Sunday, August 27, 2000 at 19:35:10 (EDT)
Sally was a very special lady- always ready to help fix a costume at the last minute when something didn't fit right, and being just as important as Tony in the operations of the theatre. My association with Sally and Tony goes back to 1954 when I first sang opera on a stage as part of the boys chorus in Carmen. We used to make the soldier hats out of newspaper! My father was singing roles at the house back then, and much of my experience in learning how to appreciate and love opera was watching those performances my dad was in, and the ones that I sang in as part of the chorus. As an adult, I went back to the Amato Opera to do my first leading roles. I was there for 6 years doing everything that Tony would give me from chestnuts like Rigoletto, Boheme, Traviata, Trovatore, Carmen, Faust, Manon, and Tosca, to rarely performed operas like Crispino e la Comare, and Nerone. I sang with Sally twice, in Tosca and in La Forza del Destino. I always felt that it was an honor when Tony gave me a performance with Sally, since I figured that Tony would want a good dependable cast to sing with Sally. I can only imagine the casts she'll be singing with now! My ties with Tony and Sally go much deeper than just performing. I didn't know then that some years after I left the theatre, I would end up being the chair of a vocal music department at The Governor's School for the Arts here in Norfolk, VA running a program teaching high school students opera very much in the same way that Tony and Sally ran the theatre. They were my mentors in so many ways. From Tony I learned staging, conducting, production, and working miracles on a budget. I also learned from Sally how to keep all the crazy singer mentalities in check, and to do wonders with costumes. From both of them I learned the love of the art form, and the joy of teaching it to a whole new generation of young singers. A few days ago, I informed my new group of students of the passing of a woman that none of them knew personally, but who was indirectly responsible for all of them sitting in the recital hall, and me being there to talk to them. I told them the story of how Tony met Sally, the beginning of the theatre, and how when we first started doing productions here at the school, Tony and Sally helped me so much by letting me use costumes and props. By the end of that class discussion, many of them felt that they "knew" Sally Amato as we who love her and Tony did. She will be missed physically at the theatre, but there is so much of her spirit there, and in all of us that she will always be there. Rest in peace, Sally.
Alan Fischer <Pescatore3@aol.com>
Norfolk, VA USA - Saturday, August 26, 2000 at 23:30:22 (EDT)
Sally, like my Aunt Jeannette, was a consumate New Yorker -- with both the rough and ready outside and the heart of gold inside. She didn't waste words, her communication was important and emphatic. She could do several things at once, no doubt learned from necessity. Conversations were inevitably interrupted by telephone calls from patrons, friends, or the general public seeking tickets, show times, next season, you name it, or volunteers asking for guidance, or relaying messages to co-workers as they walked by -- all of this while keeping the dog out of trouble. Listening to her field phone calls was especially enlightening. I could feel the harmony between her powerful business sense and her generous nature. She was a patient listener, sweet, and a creative problem solver. She could have written the book on building a successful business of patrons and ticket buyers while at the same time creating a community of loving friends. Her positive attitude and passionate spirit permeate the Amato Opera. I thoroughly enjoyed witnessing the affection and the occasional tension between Tony and Sally. The tension always centered around creating excellence onstage. Their public affection was a natural reflex to their special, enduring love, as obvious and precious as the joy in their faces. I am deeply saddened by her passing. My prayers are for Tony and all the Amato Opera family.
Brian Hunter <hunterclas@aol.com>
West Palm Beach, FL USA - Saturday, August 26, 2000 at 13:58:30 (EDT)
Ah, such a loss. My heart goes out to you Tony, your family, and the Amato family. Sally's absence will be deeply felt by all of us. She was a Great Lady!
Mary Anne Whitesides <mawhitesides@earthlink.net>
New York, NY USA - Friday, August 25, 2000 at 11:22:56 (EDT)
I would like to say how truly sorry I am for Mr. Amato's loss of his beloved wife. I didn't know her, had never met, although I had been to two performances at Amato. Was she the lovely lady who filled my coffee cup and sold me a sweet? I would like to think it was she. While viewing her photo gallery, I was deeply moved to see this young singer, probably younger than me when the photos were taken, on stage, in black & white, as Tosca, Violetta, all my favorite heroines. Just think, for 53 years to have been involved probably daily in the production of opera, to be able to work side by side with her husband, always striving for excellence. I'm sure Mrs. Amato had a very good life. No one is guaranteed a happy life, but all lives can be good lives. I'm so sorry I didn't know her. God bless her.
Robin Rubendunst <Niborskaya@yahoo.com>
New York, NY USA - Thursday, August 24, 2000 at 21:28:11 (EDT)
esprimo il mio personale rammarico per la morte di sally amato una vita a servizio della lirica luigi merli
luigi merli <luigimerli@libero.it>
maleo, italia - Thursday, August 24, 2000 at 14:18:41 (EDT)
I'd like to share a few Sally stories.... I first met Sally in 1972 when I joined the children's chorus in "Tosca" at the age of eight. My strongest first impression was watching her perform the title role. Nobody could stab Scarpia the way she did! And before she exited, she pinched out the flames on the candles with her fingers rather than blowing them out like all the other Toscas; I thought was amazingly cool. When I was a kid, we used to perform "Hansel and Gretel" a lot at schools, and she was very convincing as Hansel. I remember a school principal profusely apologizing to her for the behavior of the students after a performance once; they had, after all, booed the witch during curtain calls. Not intimidated at all by his position of authority (as I was!), Sally looked at him incredulously and said that if they hadn't booed the witch, it meant they hadn't enjoyed the show. And I remember that every time I perform for children! Like Tony, Sally never spoke down to me because I was a kid. In fact, it was just expected of me to take on increasing responsibilities at the theater as I got older. Through some awkward times of my adolescence, she always made me feel trusted and confident. When I sang in the adult chorus and started essaying small roles, Sally was always blunt but truthful in her critique. She recommended my first voice teacher. When I got into some sort of vocal rut, where I was trying to work something out in lessons, she seemed to always pick up on it in my performances and causally mention it to me at some point. I don't think a costume fitting went by where Sally didn't try to fit me into some huge pants and then scold me for having gotten so skinny since the last show. I loved watching Tony and Sally together. I'll never forget the first time as a kid that I saw Tony yell at Sally. She missed a light cue one night, and Tony came storming over to the light board screaming "Goddamnit, Sally!" and slammed his hand against a big mirror. I'm sure the audience could hear it, even though the music played on without a conductor. Soon afterwards, Sally was sporting a T-shirt backstage with the words "GODDAMNIT SALLY" in all capital letters. I also remember, when I was older, sitting in the back seat of their car as Tony drove me and Sally back to their house in the wee hours after one of our annual summer performances in New London, Connecticut. Sally offered to drive, but Tony said he wasn't tired. So as he drove, Sally playfully teased him every time she saw him try to stifle a yawn. Then she'd get caught up in conversation with me, and Tony would make a point of telling her that he had yawned two more times and she hadn't caught him! Countless couples have met at the theater -- even gotten married and had kids. Thinking about my brother's two "Amato babies," I once asked Sally if it had ever occurred to her how responsible she and Tony were for all those relationships and marriages. She stopped for a second, then quipped, "Yeah, and all the divorces!"
Mark Freiman <mfbasso@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Wednesday, August 23, 2000 at 23:50:23 (EDT)
My heart is sad, my face full of tears and my head hurting as I learn of the death of a blessed soul whose love of joy and beauty touched me deeply. Looking for opera in NYC on the internet last year, I discovered Amato and had an absolutely delightful evening with your "Merry Widow." I learned that both Mr. and Mrs. Amato were exterodinary people to have developed a company which gave such a remarkable and memorable performance. This morning as I began planning my next trip to the Big Apple, my first step was to see when the 2000-01 Amato season opens. With grief I learned of your loss, and with bittersweet tenderness I realized that I can probably be with you on opening night. My heart goes out to you, Anthony, and also to all who knew Sally, for surely to have known this dear woman was to have loved her. My prayer is that you will experience God's love anew every time you think of her. God's love & blessings, Lida
Lida Hill <lidahill@mindspring.com>
Birmingham, AL USA - Wednesday, August 23, 2000 at 12:45:38 (EDT)
Two great losses occured this past week. One of them is the passsing of Sally Amato and the other is the fact that I never got to know this great figure and person that I've read so much about. I'm a new visitor to the website and a future hopeful to perform with the company. From everything that I've read and heard about, this woman was truly a direct blessing from God in every human area possible. My prayers are with the family and may the world realize that it was a better place to have experienced a spirit such as Mrs. Amato.
William R. Stafford <dal082288@aol.com>
Ft. Lauderdale, Fl USA - Wednesday, August 23, 2000 at 10:56:55 (EDT)
Although I've been away from New York since 1983, Sally has always counted to me as a very dear part of my family. We spent many hours working together on costumes -- Anything I could drape, Sally could sew. Together we met the challenge of providing an entire Traviata's chorus's dresses when Ikuko had used the entire costume budget for Violetta, Flora and the maids. Together we met the challenge of providing costumes for the Nerone cast of 72, most of whom had several changes. Together we managed to alter Jussi Bjoerling's Old Faust pants (for, I believe, Crispino) and get the gusset in backwards. To this day, "Bjoerling's Pants" gives me the giggles.
Lucy Weed <lucyweed@juno.com>
Ivoryton, CT USA - Tuesday, August 22, 2000 at 23:20:57 (EDT)
I have so many beautiful memories of Sally. One of the fondest was when I sang Alcindoro to her Musetta. We had fun sneaking out the back door, going through the (then) parking lot, and around to the front door to make our entrance through the back of the theater. It was always cold and we always hoped that the front door would be open - it was! Sally always graciously held the door as I grabbed my prop stack of holdiay presents. Her joie de vivre laugh and proud entrance down the center aisle was marvelous, as were her aria, and business with the tight shoes. It was always fun to catch her leg and remove the shoe! Sally, if I truly were your Alcindoro in 19th-century Paris, I'd hire a cab and take you right to Maxim's, only after I'd get you some new diamonds. You deserve it! More importantly, you gave me, a very novice performer, much love, support, and respect. We all love you, as expressed in the other beautiful emails.
John Shields <jjshields@erols.com>
Baltimore, MD USA - Tuesday, August 22, 2000 at 20:43:40 (EDT)
What I remember most about Sally is the way she said my name. I can hear it over and over in my head right now. I see myself sitting at the big black Singer, humming by the window in the costume area. It is evening, maybe raining. The shining cabs are crowded around the gas station across the street. The window is wet. Downstairs in the theatre the singers are rehearsing. I can hear their strong voices and I can hear Tony giving out directions in his sure way. Sally comes back toward me from the office through the dim light, past the ironing board. She is wearing her black pants and red cable-knit sweater. She says Ruthie. She sits down beside me and begins to talk: about experiences at the theatre, about beginnings, about the costumes for the latest show or future shows, other things. If we get inspired, maybe we will drape a bolt of fabric on the dummy, or over ourselves. Rummage through the trimmings. This quiet time with Sally is what I will remember. She is the dearest friend to me and I will miss her always.
Ruth Flanders <rflan22434@aol.com>
Seattle, WA USA - Tuesday, August 22, 2000 at 16:20:05 (EDT)
when I first visited Amato, some six years ago, it was Sally who greeted me as I opened the door and so her memory is most vivid to me. I also recall the Amato Gala at which Sally brought in her own recipe for meatballs, a glorious feast we enjoyed that evening. When I told Sally they were just about the best meatballs I'd ever tasted she just laughed, thinking perhaps I was just being kind or maybe even putting her on a bit. But they were, indeed, the best I'd ever eaten and I told her so again before leaving that evening. I think then she actually seemed quite pleased. There were so many lovely little moments like this... and so today our hearts are with Tony, the company and all who've known and loved this kind and courageous couple.
Nat Johnson <natjohnson@mindspring.com>
New York, NY USA - Tuesday, August 22, 2000 at 13:58:29 (EDT)
Dear Tony; We are saddened to learn of Sally's passing. She was so upbeat and considerate that we can understand why you two fell in love and spent a lifetime together. Sally knew that we had established a New Years eve tradition of taking my mom to your gala after my dad died in 1992. She always made sure we were accomodated and greeted mom in her cheerful way. It was so touching to see you two this past New Years eve and to spend our evening with you. We wish you our best at this sad time.
sheila and vincent navarro <svn141@worldnet.att.net>
new york, ny USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 22:58:43 (EDT)
Dear Tony, My deepest sympathies are with you. I want to write but hardly know what to say. My memories of Sally are of a warm, vibrant, committed woman. I remember her from the voice lessons she once gave me ---- her enthusiasm, her support. I remember her in the theatre ---- everywhere at once. If you couldn't see her, you could hear her and know where she was. I remember how you and she related. I am feel deeply sad. God Bless You, Tony and Sally!
Lisa Isenstead <Audy@worldnet.att.net>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 22:10:03 (EDT)
My regrets on the loss of such a beloved soul. Surely she will live on in the music she loved which continues to be so beautifully shared.
Deirdre Shaw <Opalfalcon@aol.com>
Milford, NH USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 21:03:07 (EDT)
I never knew Sally like everyone else. The times I did see her she always had the brightest smile! Tony, my thoughts are with you. Sally is only a heart beat away and is now performing for the Heavens!
Mary Herman <Pooh302@webtv.net>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 19:24:49 (EDT)
It was a pleasure working closely with Sally, she was intelligent, talented and so very funny she made work a pleasure...She always remembered that Joe was a vegetarian and brought him plenty of healthy veggies and pastas for lunch, most memorable was her steamed spinach with garlic, Joe loved it! Joe's fondest memory was working in the pit and helping do the lighting with Sally for several operas, she was amazing, how perfectly she wore all the different hats she was given at the "Amato".
Joe & Iris Gulinazzo <operajoe1@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 17:04:14 (EDT)
Sally made the best meatballs! For 18 years I would help strike the sets when the run was over, and she was always there, making the chichipasta and the chicken, and the meatballs. She almost always had that smile. And she listened. There were times when I needed to talk to someone, and she was there. Never judgemental. Always supportive. She wanted me to watch my weight so I could fit into her costumes, and she would always notice when I did lose weight. And boy, could she tease!! I'll miss all of her. God bless and keep her.
Bob Shaffer <bshaffer@ptd.net>
Bethlehem, Pa USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 12:07:34 (EDT)
I was saddened to read this news, which, due to my having been on vacation out of the country, I just read. Although I didn't get to know Sally very well, the conversations I had with her were always very warm and enjoyable. The work that she did to keep the company going all these years truly added something special to New York's musical scene. Ira R.
Ira Rosenblum <irrose@nytimes.com>
NYC, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 09:32:58 (EDT)
Dear Tony, How saddened I was to hear of our dear Sally's passing. Thoughts of our "Barbiere" performances on Bleeker St. with her in the 50's came to mind; what humble beginnings for me they were in company of such a thorough professional as she. I will miss her and I am with you in spirit. Nelle tristi ore del dolore, sono con te e compiango questa perdita. Che Dio la conservi lungo le vie del cielo. Abbracci, Nico
Nico Castel <nccastel@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 08:57:46 (EDT)
My thoughts and prayers are with the Amato family now in this difficult time. When I read of Sally's passing, I just couldn't believe it. Somehow, I never pictured a time when she wouldn't be here, at the Amato Opera, always with safety pins or needle and thread for a quick repair, finding the right wig or a piece of jewelry to complete a costume, or finding extra seats for those who hadn't ordered tickets early enough. When I first began attending Amato Opera, I was a teenager being dragged to my [late] brother Erland's performances. At that time Sally always scared me -- she seemed always in a hurry and so gruff! But in the past 5 years I have been fortunate enough to step out on the Amato Opera stage in 3 wonderful roles, and learned that Sally WAS always in a hurry -- to help, to support, to make her "kids" look as good as possible out there. And when Tony was annoyed with me about the nail polish I was wearing as Aida (I didn't stop to think that the pale white-gold, against my makeup-darkened skin, would stand out so much!), it was Sally who defended me. I won't make that mistake again! Like so many others, I will always remember Sally -- her love and support and immense patience with nervous singers. Ultimately, most of the opera world will remember her as well, since so many have gotten their start in the business thanks to Sally and Tony and their wonderful little opera house (not to mention the multitudes who discovered opera there!). I am sad for the singers who will come there in the future, who will never know Sally and how special she was. There's a big hole here on Earth, but I guess God now has one of the best quick costumers he could ask for!
Philine van Lidth de Jeude <pvlstar@hotmail.com>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 05:30:35 (EDT)
It is with great sadness that I realize such a special lady is gone. The world of opera will certainly miss her generosity and talent. I will always remember the great support and encouragement she gave me during the early days of my career. And I have wonderful memories of her singing along with every soprano part (including all three in Don Giovanni) during musical rehearsals. She knew her roles and never forgot them!
Gregory Buchalter <GBuchalter@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Monday, August 21, 2000 at 03:12:11 (EDT)
Dear Tony, Words can never express the feelings of my heart at this time of sorrow. Although I have not known Sally and you for as many years as your dear friends, I really felt part of your family. Is that being bold? I don't think so, as your warmth and genuine hospitality were always present, whether at your home for your parties, or at the theater. I can remember my first experience at the Amato Opera seeing "La Camare," with my "next seat" companion from the MET. It was instant love! Sally found seats for my bus from Pennsylvania ever since. Remember the Sunday when you put on a special performance for us when our date was sold out? The New Year's celebrations were really special for our group, as it certainly was for you and Sally. Updating the Amato mailing list was another challenge I really enjoyed. Reading from Sally's "scraps" of hand scrawled names and addresses prompted many phone calls. How many times she deciphered a patron's unintelligible penmanship! Time passed and you are now much more computerized with the mailing. Today, our travel club still tries to see most of the operas. From our balcony seats I would sometimes catch a glimpse of Sally at the light board. I know where that is because I think it was Sally who allowed the whole bus to "tour" the backstage, dressing room and "the pit" after some of your productions. That was quite a treat for all of us. We all have lots of memories - the good times, the fun, the laughter, the hard work and the pleasure of knowing Sally had a wonderfully huge part in it. Knowing she was loved by all who knew her and knowing she is in a much better place now, I wish you the courage and strength to continue your great endeavor - to fill our lives with opera music! With sympathy, S. John Rannazzisi / John Rand
S. John Rannazzisi a/k/a John Rand <sjrand@enter.net>
Slatington, PA USA - Sunday, August 20, 2000 at 19:53:40 (EDT)
When I think of Sally Amato I sort of think of her as a kindred spirit to the Puccini heroine "Minnie" from La Fanciulla Del West.Like Minnie she was a sort of "tough-as-nails with a heart of gold" kind of woman.She never let false decorum slow down the smooth running of the Amato Opera backstage,where she,rightly,reigned as queen,and woe to he or she who thought their own self more important than the performance itself!Yet she was always there if a costume problem suddenly came up with bells on her toes and pins in her mouth and hands.Whenever a problem came up,you knew Sally know how to solve it.She had a certain dry sense of humor which took a little while for some of us a perhaps,a little while to get used to,but in her own unsentimental and unflowery way,she let you know she loved you. Until I attended her wake and funeral I had no idea she had such an extensive body of experience as a singer and performing artist herself! I guess that's because she was never really one to blow her own horn.She loved working along side her husband and she new that she was responsible for the smooth running of one of the finest small opera companies in the world. Like one of the Western gold rushers who watches Minnie as she leaves California with Ramerez,I know I will miss her.
Jay Bahny <jaylor.12@gateway.net>
New York, NY USA - Sunday, August 20, 2000 at 19:08:27 (EDT)
Hi, I had posted on the Internet about dear sally and that I had met her for the first time at the recent gathering at the Amato's home.I approached her and reminded her I had seen her Tosca.and she smiled sweetly.I relized how ill she was and I felt so sorry...and i know how loving she and Tony have been..and their incredible contribution to the opera world in this town will never be forgotten. i only wish I had known her, since I just joined this group..but what I do know is that every time a singer steps onto the Amato stage her loving spirit will be with them..and let this be a source of inspiration for all. With all my sincerest condolences..Charlie Handelman
Charlie Handelman <Placido21@aol.com>
NYC, NY USA - Saturday, August 19, 2000 at 23:24:15 (EDT)
It is a sad day for those of us who knew that loving/working team. My own experience goes back to those days in the late 1940s when performances were given in the Church basement on Bleecker Street and later at the theater now a Circle on the Square theater on the far east end of Bleecker Street. David Poleri and i used to sing Don Jose with that indefatigable team. I later sang Canio, Faust, Manrico, and Rhadames and other roles with the Amato Opera, one of the best training grounds for young artists. Not having seen Tony and Sally for many many years, I would not have known of her passing were it not for this newsgroup and Charlie Handelman. We remember you, Sally, with appreciation for your great dedication to fostering and nurturing those whose lives are so tied to opera, in performing or as audience, whatever their age or occupation.
Kenneth Lane, Wagnerian heldentenor <kenblane@aol.com>
Saturday, August 19, 2000 at 23:20:12 (EDT)
Sally was a wonderful person. She was warm, generous, and nuturing. She was shrewd without being judgemental. She sized people up and then accepted them for who they were. She was tenacious and a tireless worker. She was good humored and liked to laugh. She was beautiful and knew how to make us beautiful. She cared very deeply about other people and about the theatre. I only knew Sally for the last three years when I came to Amato to sing. I feel very lucky to have known her and Tony both. They are both great examples of how to live your life with joy,intelligence,honesty,passion, and love. I feel lucky to have been part of their family of singers
Emily Howard <EmilyHoward@Earthlink.net>
Brooklyn, NY USA - Saturday, August 19, 2000 at 17:35:18 (EDT)
Sally Amato was one of those people who could change your day with her big, bright smile. She was always very kind and always trying to help someone else. She was sweet and strong. I am deeply saddened by her passing but I feel she is smiling down on us from above. I send my deepest condolences to her family and close friends.
Victoria J. Wefer <victoriawefer@hotmail.com>
Union City, NJ USA - Saturday, August 19, 2000 at 12:16:27 (EDT)
Mrs. Amato was the first person I met when I visited the Amato Opera House for the first time, 9 years ago, and she gave me a hot tip on the best seats in the house. And whenever I'd call to reserve tickets, she'd remember me, for years. I was always glad when she answered the phone because she made me feel like I was getting extra special treatment, though I can honestly say I don't believe I did anything to deserve it. That was one of the many wonderful things about the Amato: Sally made you feel special before you even got to the opera house.
Stephen Altobello <saltobello@earthlink.net>
Brooklyn, NY USA - Saturday, August 19, 2000 at 00:24:47 (EDT)
I was deeply saddened at the news of the passing of Sally Amato. The opera community owes her a large debt for her dedication, enthusiasm and never-ending giving spirit to our industry. Although I was not a close friend, she touched my life and the lives of many, many of my friends. She and Tony through their efforts have filled a huge empty space in the heart of opera. We will all miss her. I extend my deepest sympathies to her friends, colleagues and family.
Sandra Van Cleve <diva_445@yahoo.com>
New York, NY USA - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 16:04:09 (EDT)
While Tony Amato has always been the ãheartä of the Amato Opera, Sally has always been the ãsoulä. As we mourn Sallyâs passing, we can all take some small measure of comfort in knowing that the soul lives on, and always will be a part of this labor of love, the Amato Opera. Tony, we offer our condolences. Sally will be missed by all who have ever had the pleasure to have known her. Tom and Marianne Ortiz
Tom and Marianne Ortiz <wallstreet@prodigy.net>
Flushing, NY USA - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 15:06:18 (EDT)
I will never forget Sally. She was always nice to me, I will never forget that. She used to visit us in the changing room upstairs, sometimes to teach the children, including me, how to sing in the chorus, or sometimes to visit us and wish us luck. I really enjoyed her company. May she rest in peace knowing the people below her love her. Love from Catherine Ortiz.
Catherine Ortiz <wallstreet@prodigy.net>
Flushing, NY USA - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 14:38:46 (EDT)
Anyone attending the Amato Opera will always remember the warmth of greetings Sally and Tony gave us. In the thirty years I have been coming to your delightful little theater on the Bowery, thanks to you both, I have learnt what opera-making is all about right down to the nitty-gritty. Sally's spirit will always be at every future performance and we shall all feel it. Bless you Tony, my thoughts are with you. Love Avice
Avice R. Wilson <avice@ifu.net>
New Brunswick, NJ USA - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 11:52:13 (EDT)
I am so glad to say that mine is one of the countless lives that Sally Amato touched. I practice Buddhism, and I believe that one of the most noble things a human being can do is to reach out and do for others. Sally Amato, in her career and in her daily life, was such a person, and I am sincerely grateful to her. It was at the Amato Opera that I sang my first role, as Mistress Meg in "Falstaff." That was about 8 years ago. Since then, Sally and Tony gave me lead roles with their special company, and I know that I can learn anything and sing under any circumstances because of the invaluable experience of singing at the Amato Opera. I am now in my second year apprenticeship with the Santa Fe Opera, and I continue to send reviews and notes of my progress to the Amato, because I know how much they have helped me to grow as an artist. Thank you, Sally, for your kindness and humanity. Love, Natalie
Natalie Anne Levin <natalia9_1971@yahoo.com>
Rockville, MD USA - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 11:30:46 (EDT)
Anyone who has worked at the Amato Opera will tell you that Sally was a dear friend. She was always a helpful and sympathetic colleague. What she did for us at the Amato was immeasureable. She was so supportive of me even though I was a beginner at opera when I first came to the Amato. We will all miss her dearly. Thomas Bagwell, Amato Opera '94-97 Metropolitan Opera, Assistant Conductor
Thomas Bagwell <Merryehaus@aol.com>
New York, NY USA - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 10:12:39 (EDT)
I saw a documentary on the french television... I will pray for you and your family hervŽ
hervŽ
paris, france - Friday, August 18, 2000 at 05:31:59 (EDT)
My experience of Sally Amato was actually rather short, although I had met her and Tony when my brother, Erland, first got involved with Amato Opera while I was in Chicago. When I got back, Tony featured me in two operas during 1982, as Germont in LA TRAVIATA and Carlo Gerard in ANDREA CHENIER. Sally was great about helping out with my costuming, which wasn't easy, as I am a rather big specimen. Tony was great with the conducting chores and showing us what he wanted onstage in the staging. Those performances were a special time for me, as I was trying out two new major roles. Since then, I have moved on and sung at various opera houses in the U.S. and Germany, and I have also moved from baritone to tenor and a totally different repertoire. But the lessons I learned in getting a staging down quickly and learning roles on my own have stood me in very good stead throughout my career, and I hope to be able to pass some of that on through my teaching activities. Thanks, Sally and Tony, for your help and kindness and farewell, Sally, and a fervent God bless you from the bottom of my heart. Tony, God bless you, too, and may those who are with you now in your wonderful project be able to bring you comfort in these difficult days. Phil Philip van Lidth de Jeude Blumenstrasse 14 41236 Moenchengladbach GERMANY E-mail: PeteGrimes@aol.com
Philip van Lidth de Jeude <PeteGrimes@aol.com>
Moenchengladbach, NRW Germany - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 23:37:40 (EDT)
My family and I have been going to the Amato Opera since I was a child. We were audience "regulars" and Sally and Tony always remembered us and greeted us warmly when we attended. Eventually they asked my sister and me to sing in the children's chorus. I will never forget Tony and Sally's gentle guidance, their generosity, and how they welcomed us, took us under their wing, and infected us with their love of opera and the joy of their theater. The night of my first performance as the shepherd in Tosca, I was so nervous I couldn't remember my first note. I hummed it to myself in the pit throughout the intermission but I was terrified I would forget it. Sally noticed my anxiety and came over to reassure me. She stood in the pit with me while the orchestra started to play and--ever so quietly, into my ear--sang the first few notes with me. To me, that embodies what the Amato Opera, and Sally, were all about. The theater, our city, and the opera community will be a darker place without her. She will be missed, but I know that her memory will live on in every performance and in every child whose life she touched. Thanks for everything, Sally.
Liat Kaplan <ljk212@yahoo.com>
New York, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 18:56:35 (EDT)
My one and only visit to Amato Opera was this spring, when I saw a performance of Madama Butterly. I was most impressed with all of it, from sets, costumes, voices, orchestra, etc. I'd read about the company first through Opera-L, an internet discussion group about opera. She had a long and productive life. May she rest in peace.
Elsa Tranter <etranter@uclink4.berkeley.edu>
Berkeley, CA USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 18:43:47 (EDT)
"Silently one by one, in the infinite meadows of heaven Blossomed the lovely stars, the forget-me-nots of angels." Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Goodbye Dearest Sally You will always be with us. Our lives have been enriched in countless ways since being touched by you.
Richard, Rose-Anne & Heather <richard.bloch@axacs.com>
Baldwin, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 18:12:09 (EDT)
My memory of Sally goes back many years ago, when my two young daughters participated in several of the Amato productions. Sally was the consumate stage manager: she made sure that the all singers were present, that the stage floor was clean, that the shy a capela young singer made her entrance on time, and so on. All that was done cheerfully, with love of people and of opera. She has turned an exciting experience into an unforgetable one. It is difficult to imagine the Amato Opera Workshop without her.
Ehud Kaplan <kaplane@rockvax.rockefeller.edu>
New York, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 18:12:07 (EDT)
It's been many years since Sally has performed, but she positively glowed on stage, and even when she was past her prime, she could put the young sopranos to shame when it came to depicting the allure and sex appeal of an ingenue. Her beautiful singing and convincing acting were unbeatable. I will never forget some of her performances as Musetta, Violetta, Tosca, and Alice Ford. She was also gave the best performance of Hansel I have ever witnessed. I am honored to have shared the stage with her. I also loved doing the lights and curtain with Sally for many years. We had lots of fun trying to fix our lighting mistakes. Sally always took the heat for me when Tony would come flying angrily at us when the singers were in the dark, or when the stage didn't black out or the curtain didn't fall. Sally taught me the meaning of the second chance, and the third chance, and the fourth chance, and so on... I'll always appreciate the love and forgiveness she showed me. (Even after the time I almost dropped a chandelier on her head during a curtain call.) I'll never forget the way she could feed us after a strike or at the dock parties. I always looked forward to her chicken, zitti and putanesca sauce. I can still taste that sauce. More recently, when I helped build scenery, she always insisted on giving me a plate of her homemade Italian delicacies. Sally's honesty is legendary, she did not dole out praise, and while she had empathy, love and encouragement for struggling performers, she could also evaluate a performance bluntly and succinctly. So it is impossible to describe the pride I felt on the occasions that she complimented my conducting. Sally, while never a mother, was the "mother of all mothers" at the theater and nurtured each of us. I believe that Sally always thought of me as the ten year old boy that started in the Amato children's chorus. I'm pretty sure that's why whenever I came to her for a costume fitting, she always handed me clothing that was several sizes to small. She was always surprised that I didn't fit in the outfit she chose. I think I find that flattering. I think that when we saw Sally at the last dock party, we all knew that she would be leaving us soon. But she was in high spirits and spent hours outside greeting her friends and family. I was told she had been doing poorly and resurged in the week before the dock party. I'm sure she held onto her life so she could attend the party, celebrate Tony's 80th birthday and say her good-byes. I will always think of Sally when I put a safety pin in my costume. And now she is forever singing "Sempre Libera". Her voice will continue to echo throughout the Amato Opera Theater. I miss you Sally.
David Freiman <dfreiman@yahoo.com>
New York, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 16:27:03 (EDT)
I've always felt that the Amato Opera had a great impact on my life and on the direction which all three of my children have taken both musically and in one case, romantically (in the case of my son Nathan and piano alumna Liz Hastings who met there some 20 years ago.) In many ways, Sally was an auxilliary mother to them all - coaching them, dressing them, cooking for them and preparing them in so many ways for performance and life. We will miss her. Anne Bahny
Anne Bahny <bsbny@erols.com>
Great Neck, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 16:08:17 (EDT)
When i got back to the UK, after an all-too-brief but eventful stint at the Amato Opera, i told all my friends about this unique and wonderful place. I talk fondly of Tony and his incredible presence on and off stage. And of Sally, and her tireless support and encouragement to everyone of the gang - not to mention her cooking! She has truly enriched the lives of all who have had the good fortune to meet her. I am just sorry I will now not have the chance to say this to her in person. Nan
Nan Atichatpong <nan@dtn.ntl.com>
London, UK - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 13:36:10 (EDT)
Sally Amato was truly a source of support and strength for me at Amato Opera. Just seeing her sitting in the theatre was an inspiration to me. She had a keen eye and knew just what to say at the right time. Sally was very much like my mom in both temperament and talents, which made me feel immediately close to her. When I was in my teens and first starting to use make-up, my mother always chided me about my narrow upper lip. She would say "You have to make your upper lip fuller....get that lipstick over your lip line...here, let me show you". My mom then proceeded to extend my upper lip,which of course, I hated with a passion!!! This became a running joke at home. Well, years later when I started singing at Amato Opera, Sally came around to check my makeup and said "Your upper lip is too narrow...you have to make it fuller....let me show you". And of course, she proceeded to apply the lipstick way above my lipline...which I hated but loved because it was so like my mom. And from then on, all that Sally needed to do was to look at me a certain way, and I knew I had to make that upper lip fuller! I've missed Sally terribly but her spirit will always continue to be a part of my soul and the soul of Amato Opera. Her generosity to both me and my husband will always be remembered. With Love, Debbie and Frank Surdi
Deborah Surdi <borsky170@earthlink.net>
New York, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 11:15:12 (EDT)
When I think of Sally, I think of her wit and quick thinking. Whether it was a contraption to keep my shoes on in Hansel and Gretel or her comments about what someone was doing on stage (which were always dead on) her forthright manner was always so refreshing. I'll bet she's having a ball with the Celestial Choirs and will even teach them a thing or two. Sally is in my prayers, may God keep her and bless her in his kingdom.
Devin <Devin_Dukes@YR.com>
New York, NY USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 09:23:33 (EDT)
Her smile. That's what I keep thinking about right now, is her smile. What a wonderful smile. I didn't know Sally for very long, but I know how much love she held in her heart, and how much she will be missed by all who knew her. She always made me feel welcome, in her home and in her theater, and I'm sure I'm not alone with that feeling. She enriched the world of those around her. And now she sings with the other angels. She has earned her wings. Sleep well, Sally. Betsy
Betsy Scholl <scholl@ipass.net>
Raleigh, NC USA - Thursday, August 17, 2000 at 04:41:42 (EDT)
When I heard tonight that the Sally had left us, I felt cheated. Cheated because I had known this great lady for only the last four years of her life. But during that time, she had been so generous to me, and had given me so much encouragement each and every time I walked on the Amato Opera stage, that I wanted to know more about her. So, I created this book so that maybe, just maybe, other people who had known her longer might fill in a few of the gaps for me. Since her fans are world-wide, I realized that this was the only way we were going to share our memories. Thank you for sharing them with us.
Nathan Hull <nathan@nathanhull.com>
New York, NY USA - Wednesday, August 16, 2000 at 22:14:43 (EDT)